As an end note- one of the reasons so many folks refuse to look deeper is because when they step into all of this and find comfort then try and branch out a bit they are met with berating and mocking which pushes them right back to their comfy spot. “Scott Cunningham never judged me” and the like. And I get it, as a community we like to show our claws and be all deep and dark but at some point we are going to have to realize we are the reason people don’t want to look deeper and the cause of a lot of our own dramaz.